Last week I read about the death of porn star Arpad Miklos on huffingtonpost, and on the dailymail, which made me sad because I like him. What’s even sadder is that apparently he committed suicide. Gosh I just noted Aaron Swartz last month who ended his life too.
Arpad passed away on February the 3rd in New York, at the age of 45.
His real name is Péter Kozma. He was born in Hungary, where he worked as a chemist before being discovered by director Kristen Bjorn. Arpad appeared in both gay and straight porn videos.
He also appeared in the Perfume Genius video ‘Hood’ just last year, which I absolutely love and noted in this post. Heck I’ll just put up the video again here; it’s incredibly cute and funny and hauntingly beautiful.
Fellow porn star Colby Keller wrote a beautiful tribute to Arpad on his blog (link NSFW) which include the following words:
While I don’t pretend to fully know the rationale behind his decision, I can say that I’ve struggled myself with depression and suicide. Like any physically-demanding, socially-vexed form of labor, sex work isn’t easy work– not least because of the stigma and meager income. You give a lot of yourself for what can seem like very little in return. It can take its toll emotionally. The naked body is a vulnerable body after-all. We should remember to celebrate Arpad, the sexy man behind the scenes and in front of the camera who gave so much of himself for our desire, and not condemn a choice privately considered and personally significant enough to result in such extreme measures.
Stigma. Yeah that’s life we generally look down on sex workers like porn actors and prostitutes, and I think that’s terrible. I don’t celebrate porn stars but I don’t condemn them either. That would be hypocritical as I jerk off to them sometimes. Sorry, I know that’s over-sharing, but I think it’s just so ridiculous when people *automatically* look down on a prostitute but *automatically* look up admiringly to any rich guy in a suit. Lawyers, bankers, politicians, etc, even doctors; sometimes we forget not all are noble and they can be screwed up as hell too. I think that as long as the sex worker practices safe sex and is in the industry out of his/her own free will, not exploited or forced to out of circumstances like poverty for example, my opinion is that it’s fine.